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How to Build Common Ground with Your Full Time Babysitter

What makes it a lot easier to have an understanding with your full time babysitter, especially if she’s from the eastern part of the world, is knowing that there are a lot of common principles between eastern communities for raising children. Overprotecting, taking all details into consideration, and taking close care. You can consider this an initial bridge of understanding that has been paved between you and your babysitter, especially if she is from an Eastern community. All you need to do is add some rules and guidelines based on your preferences.

Parents might have a specific parenting methodology they follow, and they prefer their full time babysitter nanny to follow too. Parents may prefer a flexible approach with their children, with fewer restrictions, to raise strong and proactive children. Parents may be very concerned about their children’s safety and have their own reasons for it.

A full time babysitter won’t be able to realize these preferences if you don’t guide her from the beginning of her contract, not after the dispute takes place. There are things that require the parent’s guidance and constant follow-up with their babysitter to reduce differences and build a common ground that makes communication better, even if she is from a faraway country with a completely different culture. And in order to build that bridge, here are some applicable tips.

1. Building a bond with your full time babysitter and a positive relationship

First of all, a babysitter is not like any other worker, she is someone whose work relates to our children. We need to assure good communication, cooperate with her through the challenges she may face with our children, and implant trust to help her accept our instructions and welcome implementing them.

  • Motivate, reward, and thank your babysitter when she makes a good performance or shows commitment. Buying her a gift, paying a raise, or even just cheering and thanking her. This can make her feel appreciated, motivated, more committed to her responsibilities, and better receptive to our instructions.
  • Give the babysitter enough time to understand your requirements and implement them in the manner you prefer. A full time babysitter will perform the normal tasks she performs with any other children, for which she has been trained by Raha. However, if you have special rules you prefer with your children, you must give the babysitter some time to work on them gradually until everything is done properly.
  • You can always have a short-term contract for a babysitter on the Raha app; yet, once you make sure this is the babysitter you need for your children, it is better to have a much longer contract. This is to avoid building a new bridge of understanding with a new babysitter every time.

2. Set your rules ahead, not when a dispute arises

It requires a lot of flexibility when it comes to children, yet it’s necessary to create a framework for the way you prefer to interact with children and explain it in detail to the babysitter. This way, she can better adhere to your requirements. There are always 2 necessary topics to have common ground with your babysitter on The values and the timetable:

  • The values you need to follow with your children

The supervision you need the babysitter to do when your children watch YouTube.

The direction you need the babysitter to make with the children so they get to perform their obligatory prayers.

Homework time.

The way the children talk to adults, respectfully, including the babysitter.

To be honest and avoid lying.

The sense of privacy you need your children to earn, for themselves and for others.  

Screen time.

Rewards and consequences.

Clearly define the values, behavior, and rules that you require. Guide the babysitter, let her learn about them, and give her enough time to recognize and apply them.

  • Set a schedule, yet ensure flexibility.

For school children:

Fortunately, they’re often committed to a study schedule and weekly activities. This makes a big part of their day already structured, and the babysitter can be responsible for the other part.

Even if you hire a babysitter to take care of your children for a limited time, create a list of tasks for her to do in her shift, which will start once the kids are back home. Schedule tasks with a timeline if possible: preparing their meals, washing and drying their clothes, tidying their rooms to be prepared for bedtime, or studying.

The priority here is limited to babysitter tasks, especially these tasks that are difficult for the mother to accomplish when the babysitter isn’t around. Also, avoid overlapping tasks by determining the babysitter’s priorities and adding them to the babysitter’s schedule.

As for babies:

Dealing with babies requires much more flexibility; even with a prior agreement and a schedule, there will be daily violations imposed by the baby on the mom and on the babysitter. Yet, the main tasks of the babysitter must be agreed upon, such as cleaning and ventilating his room, washing his clothes, changing sheets, sanitizing his feeding set, and preparing his meals. All of those are the main tasks for the babysitter, yet her highest priority is taking care of the baby himself, and it happens when that only task takes all her time.

3. Consider the difference between each babysitter’s performance

Changing a diaper from a babysitter may take 15 minutes because they only change the diaper and clean the baby; and it may take 30 minutes for another babysitter because she makes sure that the baby’s skin is completely dry, applies necessary oils and creams, and changes his clothes. 

Adding to that, if you’re monitoring your own performance and the difference between your productivity each day, you’ll know we may perform the same task differently one day than the next, due to a lack of energy that makes us do things slower or a new skill we’ve acquired that makes us perform faster. Therefore, it’s always better to have good communication with the babysitter and follow her when her performance varies, so you can take it easy on her lower performance days and get the best out of her faster performance days.

The same babysitter can take different amounts of time for the same task, depending on its requirements. It might be a bit confusing if you’re hiring a short-term babysitter because she was supposed to complete, say, 10 tasks, yet she only completed 7. Therefore, flexibility is a must, along with rules and schedules.

4. Respecting the culture, standards, and religious rules of the Saudi community

A babysitter working in a foreign country is responsible for learning more about the culture of that country and respecting the norms of its people, and the standards of its community. It is also nice when we add to the babysitter information in this regard, be patient until she learns everything she needs, in order to make her tasks easier and everyone wins.

The good news is that Raha undertakes the process of educating every personal assistant who works as a full time babysitter to ensure their respect for the standards of Saudi society and the teachings of the Islamic religion. From dress code to respecting the client’s privacy and the privacy of each family member.

We choose each babysitter carefully, make necessary checks, and criminal record checks, and verify the psychological, physical, and medical fitness of each babysitter. We also hand over the monthly salary to each babysitter and take complete responsibility for all admission and return procedures. And this is what distinguishes a full time babysitter from Raha.

Choose your full time babysitter from the Raha app. Based on your preferences, years of experience, cultural background, and the languages she speaks, you can also check the reviews of each babysitter and their comments on her service. This and even more on the Raha app. To start your contract, download the Raha app now.


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